Knowing My Husband's Wishes

October 2018

Dr. Heyland, 

I just wanted to thank you for involving us in your PlanWell seminars.   We did read through the information, filled it out, talked to our children about our decisions and ultimately knew what we wanted the end to look like.  In my wildest dreams, I would never have envisioned using this information as soon as we did.

A few months later, on September 4th, Gary fell, hit his head and ended up in a life threatening situation with a severe brain trauma. He was air lifted to the ICU at Foothills Hospital in Calgary where he spent the next couple of weeks.  He passed away peacefully September 19th.  He had an opportunity to communicate [not verbally but with his eyes & hand squeezing] with each of our children and with me, which the Doctors said was a miracle.  Indeed it was a miracle and we were truly blessed to have those special moments with him.  

Although this was one of the hardest experiences of my life, it was made easier by our planning exercise with you. When the doctor’s approached me to make decisions on Gary’s behalf, I didn’t want the stress of taking that responsibility all by myself and was so grateful that I heard Gary’s voice and was able to communicate his wishes to the doctors. The planning helped me understand what he would have wanted. And because he had already discussed those wishes with our children, they also understood what was best to do. It was so helpful to have the family ‘all on the same page.’

I feel it is so important to talk about these things. You don’t want to feel guilty about what was done. You want to feel like you honored your loved ones’ last wishes. I strongly encourage others to engage in this planning exercise- don’t procrastinate this task because you never know when you will need it!


Alberta Canada


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